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Many of us chase happiness, hoping to eventually catch it, without really knowing how to go about it. In fact, we are trained from a young age that we can buy it, only to later be disappointed.

I have come to realize that the key to happiness lies in giving freely with an open heart, and true heart-centered giving is based upon love, abundance, and connection.

However, we can only give to others unconditionally when our own tanks are filled to the point of overflowing. This means we must be able to make ourselves happy and allow others to contribute to our happiness.

This is not to say that you should hole yourself up until you have amassed your fortune. It simply means that we should make every effort to be generous to ourselves.

For example, to me, ‘filling my tank’ means that I get enough sleep, eat healthy food, exercise, enjoy ‘me’ time, spend quality time with my husband, VJ and our dog, as well as being productive in my work. Essentially, I focus on giving myself all the things that I need in order to operate well and then I can reach out and offer help to others.

I give because I want to, not because I want others to like me or get something in return.

Generosity, or giving therefore, should not just be focused outwards. You need to be generous to yourself first, so that you can go out there protected, yet vulnerable, and help from a true giving spirit.

The irony is that when we give freely we get so much in return.

Your Assignment:

Fill Your Own Tank Of Happiness

Reflect on how much you are doing for yourself. Are you devoting enough time to your physical and mental well being? Do you give yourself enough me time? Are you able to invest enough time and energy into nurturing your relationships? The idea is to identify the areas in your life where you need to be more generous with yourself. We all can use help in this department!